Officially "in my 30's"

I felt like 30 was my denial stage. Not because I didn't want to be 30, I literally just kept forgetting. I was forever 29 in my eyes. So, now that I'm 31, I'm feeling official!

For my birthday, my mom, sister and a dearest friend of mine headed out to Stoller winery and gosh, that place is stunning. We drank some rose, snacked on a charcuterie plate, laughed, talked about life and took in all beauty of Oregon wine country.

 This is 31. 

I don't know about you, but life for me just seems a bit crazy lately. Not only am I at my max capacity for what I can take in news wise (fires, hurricanes, politics, etc. etc. etc), but I'm also trying to find a life balance while running my own company.

When I get a bit burnt out on life, I'm reminded of all the important things. The things that truly matter in life like family, friends, laughter, the simple things...

I just want, so badly, to defy the odds. To work hard and run a successful business, but not be that stressed out person that lives for work and no play. So, I've dedicated 31 to figure this out, because the stress I've been feeling is on another level. I was starting to have aches, pains, fatigue, and sensations that I had never even felt before. And my shoulders were (and still are) so tight that I literally feel like I have a bag of bricks on them. I'm also extremely forgetful and I'm honestly just, tired.

Stress is such a bitch like that (pardon my language).

But you know what? I've always noticed that when it pushes you this far, you are forced to reevaluate everything. What can I do to help myself? How can I help balance out the stress?

For that, I welcome you, stress.

Here is what I wrote in my notebook (I carry this everywhere with me so I can jot down thoughts and notes). I jotted down just a few attainable actions that I wanted to make sure I was doing.

-More time in the present. On the coast the other day, Tyson asked me to not be on my phone. Not because he was telling me what to do, but because he wanted to challenge me to just be in the moment. And even after putting down my phone, I started talking about how much being at the beach in Oregon made me miss California. Once again, I derailed from being present. I'm really good at that. So, I was forced to get back to the moment and appreciating THAT moment, not the past or present ones.

-Meditate or breathing exercises for 5 minutes (only 5- I've got this!) first thing in the morning. 

-No work emails until 9am. I have been rolling out of bed and starting work from my phone first thing in the morning. Just, no...

-More Barre3. I haven't been in so long and it truly is my happy place. Although I'm not looking forward to my first class back (ouch!)...

-More time with friends. It feels like I've neglected my friends all summer.  Between moving and working, it's just been so hard, but it's still a terrible excuse.

-More one on one time with Parker. I've decided that every Wednesday I'm going to start work at 11am and take the morning to do something fun with Parker. He's just growing up so fast and I don't want to pass this time up.

-Take a news break. I'm at a point where I just... can't. It's too much. I don't want to be naive, but you also need to listen in and realize when it's healthier for you to just take a news break.

-Bed before 10pm. I used to be asleep by 9:30pm almost every night and it felt amazing! So, I feel like 10pm is a good place to meet in the middle. Also, falling asleep reading or writing (not on my phone) is a big goal of mine.

-More quality time with Tyson. I miss cuddling on the couch, rambling about life and dreams with him. Now it's work, schedules and Parker stuff. I'm trying to get back to those conversations we had when we first started dating. And those moments where just laying on the couch talking was everything.

How do you de-stress? I'm also curious if you are a business owner, how do you balance work and life?


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